Persistence is key

Do you find that you really want good things in life but that you can not seem to really fight for what you want? Do you find yourself giving up easily? Do you find yourself settling for second best? Let me ask you a question...why is that? Is it due to comfort of convenience? Well, if Sir Alan Sugar was too comfortable in the early part of his life then he would not of fought to become the successful Business Man and TV Personality that he is today, he certainly knew what he wanted and he was willing to be persistent in order to obtain the success that he was looking for. Beyonce Knowles is also a very determined, persistent female...if she didn't persist in her singing career she would not be the 9 times Grammy-Award winning Singer that she is today. So you maybe thinking to yourself...I want to be persistent and win in my life, I want to get married, be a manager, get a promotion, I want a pay rise, I want to complete my degree, I want my book to be published...but I do not know how to complete what I start, I always seem to lose heart!! Don't despair...below I have typed up three golden tips that can use to help you become more persistent - which will cause you to be more successful in your life:

1) Keep the vision alive: Write out what you want to achieve, have a goal, write out what steps you need to take to make your dream come true (so it's really plain) then you need to really begin to imagine yourself in the position that you want to be in i.e. if you play football and you dream of being a Football Player for Chelsea Football Team - you need to be able to visualise this. I suggest that you do research on the team, buy the t-shirt, watch the games, get as fit as possible, play footie often and believe in the impossible. Tell your closest friends and family what you dream of achieving and they will help you and often ask you how things are going - which can really give you the motivation you need to prevail.

2) Believe that you can achieve greatness: 'If you aim for the sky you may hit the ceiling, if you aim for the ceiling you may reach the floor' someone once said this to me and I believe this is true. You have to aim high, but before you can aim high you must believe! You have to believe in yourself, you have to believe in the impossible, you have to know that you can do great things in your life. Also I must also say that you need to be around people who believe in you and who are like-minded (iron sharpens iron - proverbs), if you have friends that laugh at your dream then you need to stop telling them your business before they discourage you, get around positive people who have aspirations like you. If your a Fashion Designer, I bet you want doors to open for, maybe you'd like to see your clothes on celebrities or in stores. Start looking for opportunities to shine, maybe you need to start to be at the right places at the right times which involves attending fashion shows, visiting retail stores and speaking with other stylists. Do what you need to do to push for success and eventually your lucky moment will eventually come.

3) Overcome the fear of failure: Some people never achieve there goals or dreams because they often give up when things get tough, boring or difficult. As soon as things do not go there way - they decided to settle for second best or look for a comfortable alternative. The bible says 'Be not weary in well doing for you shall reap if you faint not' in other words keep working hard, sowing seeds, believing, persisting and if you do not give up then you will reap the blessings that you desire. So maybe your a single woman...you want to get married and you have done everything you can to prepare yourself for marriage, maybe you've even tried on your wedding dream as an act of faith, you've bought books on marriage and done the tips they gave you...but it's still not happening. I would say to you, don't give up, don't despair...keep believing, keep yourself focused on the positive things in your life, don't date any random guys just to fill the void instead love yourself more and enjoy the simplicity of life, trust that you will know your husband when you meet him, picture your dream husband coming into your life at any moment. When the dream is real enough to you...then you are likely to see the aspiration happen in real life.

Upcoming Festive Success Female Meeting - How to shine and be the best female that you can be

Dear Friends,

I am excited, as this Saturday 23rd of May, I am having a seminar for the ladies...well...more like a mini-group meeting on Festive Success and this time it's female empowering...I am so looking forward to delivering my message that I have come up with. I am going to be looking at issues within the meeting such as:

* How to love yourself, like your self and accept yourself
* How to focus on your strengths, potentials, your best qualities
* How to avoid wasting your time and energy on things that drain you.
* How to make your dreams, aspirations a living reality.
* How to live a fulfilled life and have success in business and work
* How to be the dream woman that you want to be
* We'll have some festively fun discussions, network and do some mini-activities, over some nice food at a local restaurant. yeppie :-)

I am very excited and I really have a passion to see people become more successful and above all I want to see 'you be the best you that you can be' this may involve letting go of some past memories, letting go of past hurts, changing friends, putting some boundaries, getting out of comfort zones, thinking positive, letting go of what was and beginning to focus on what is today and what will be in the future (which is greatness, living the dream and more success). I have decided to stop wasting my time on things that affect my joy - lets decide to do this together :-)

If you are interested in attending this female event tomorrow (23rd May 2009)...holler at me or if you would like to come to the next festive success group meeting (which is sometimes mixed or sometimes just for females) then send me an email: queenchioma_singer@hotmail.co.uk

Many thanks...more updates, blogs and articles coming super soon :-)

Oh quick tip: I watched a video today on youtube by Dr Jeanine and she gave a message on 'Don't give your pearls to swine' (scripture that somes from Matthew in the bible) I think that she is so right...some people are just not worth your time, you try to give them love but the throw it back in your face...so just let go of them and focus on the people that truly love and adore you :-) You deserve to be happy and you deserve to the best female that you truly want to be :-)

Remain FESTIVE.

Queen Chioma :-)
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How to Finish Strong

"If you believe in youself and know what you want your gonna make it happen, make it happen, and if your getting on your knees at night and pray to the Lord he's gonna make it happen, make it happen" Mariah Carey

Many people want things in life but they do not want it bad enough, if they did they would be willing to do whatever good things they need to do to make it happen, they would be willing to endure till the end. I have found that in my life I had to endure with studying my BA degree, the glory part was the graduation and the success of having the degree but it took hard work, dedication, commitment and consistency to arrive at the graduation stage and now I am able to enjoy my success. I am sure that you have overcome some struggles and been victorious, I want to encourage you to never give up and to not settle for second best in your life. Maybe you are just about to complete your book but your getting stressed and can not be bothered anymore...don't quit work harder. Below are some tips on how you can finish strong.

1) Be Ambitious: In order to finish your exams, degree, coursework, to overcome past hurts, to get a promotion in work, in order for you not to give up in life when the going gets tough you need to begin by having a mental view of what you want to achieve, you need to be ambitious. Ambition is about having a passion, goals, dreams and aspirations, a desire for success and wanting the good things in life that life has to offer. I encourage you to write out your ambitions and put them on your wall if need be to remind yourself of what you want to achieve - this will make you become a winner, this will make you determined to complete the good work you have started. If you forget your goals then you will forget the reason why you need to work harder and you'll see now point of fighting to cross the finish line.

2) Remind yourself of the rewards: So you want to get a new car, perhaps your saving up for it right now and your close to having the exact money you need to buy the car and all of a sudden the temptation comes for you to go on a shopping spree...resist the urge, write a list of the benefits that you will achieve through buying your dream car, for example 'A new car will lift my confidence', 'I will be able to go anywhere I want to in the comfort of my own car', 'I will have the car of my dreams', 'I won't need to rely on public transport anymore'. You see...your now beginning to realise that the benefits out way the urge to go shopping...clothes and shoes will always come and go but a car is so valuable so don't trade your chance of having a car for a short lived shopping spree. Be determined to finish strong and gain your true reward.

3) Have faith: In order to complete a task, a mission, a chore you need to have faith that you can do it, it all starts in the mind. In order to succeed in your business or if you want to run a marathon and get to the finish line successfully, then you need to begin to change your thinking...believe that you can do it, you need to believe that you are able. Ask yourself 'what is preventing me from being as determined as I want to be in my life?' Is it people? Is it my friends? Is it negative thinking? Is it my past failures? Well if you want to succeed then you need to make small changes for good results. Start by surrounding yourself with like-minded people, people who encourage you, practice faith and belief. Speak like a winner; say things like 'I can make it', 'I will win', 'I am determined to succeed', 'I will finish strong'. If you keep it up and keep it up and keep it up and keep it up...eventually you will MAKE IT HAPPEN. Congratulations :-)



:-) Best wishes. Queen Chioma

3 Top Tips on how to be Successful and Happy in 2009

By Queen Chioma Nworgu

1) Reinvent a new you:
Decide to be a new person this 2009, get excited that you can change and be more amazing. Make a drastic change - maybe it could be to totally transform your image, redecorate your bedroom, get a totally new fashionable wardrobe, or to get a shocking new hair cut, replace your old furniture. Start writing your book. Decide go on a travelling adventure abroad for a few months. Or to totally cut back on something that makes you so predictable at home i.e. No more gossiping at work. When you do something amazing and different. Everyone will notice a change and you will like yourself more also. I will give you an example - Rhianna, when she came out with the Umbrella song - her image was totally different, the black hair etc. Everyone was like wow!! Sometimes we have to step out the boat and do something wow :-) I suggest that you challenge yourself to make three big changes this year to be the new YOU that YOU want to be.
Ask yourself...am I too predictable and boring?
What can I do you reinvent a new me?
What three things will I do to be a more interesting and fascinating this 2009?


2) Dare to Dream Big and Reach for your Aspirations:
So often we can live our lives like it's one big routine and truly forget what we really want. Sometimes we have to take a drastic decision for things to change. Refresh your memory by asking yourself what you really want to achieve to live a fulfilling life. Write out exactly what it is that you would like to see happen in 2009, no matter how big or small it is. Maybe you would like to become a Manager, or start your own Fashion Business, become a Fitness Instructor, part take in a TV programme or work for Radio station. Well, it will not happen unless you begin doing something about it. I suggest write down three of your top goals and write down all the steps that you will need to take to achieve them. Then set reminders on your outlook, phone or diary and keep doing something everyday to work towards your goals. Visualise where you will like to be this time next year. Dream big and go for it :-)
Tip: It may not happen over night, but be persistent and patient, don't let anyone force you into change, rather work on things step by step, also be careful who you tell your dreams to, as some may try to discourage you.
Ask yourself....what can I do to live out my dreams?
What is my personal development plan for 2009?
Am I afraid of change?


3) Reflect on your Successes and Victories:
Write down at least 10 things that you are so proud about or that you have achieved in your life. Read this list at least twice a week. Remind yourself of your past successes as they say that 'Success breeds success'. Think about how you got your job, how you obtained your best grades at school and your qualifications, reflect on that great speech that you gave that got you a standing ovation at your work meeting, think about how you managed to quit smoking or how you started your own business. The more you do this, you will become more positive, happy and thankful. You will also become more confident - which is important. Stop wasting your time by reflecting on all your failures - start to reflect on your successes from today onwards.
Ask yourself...is it healthy to compare myself to others?
Am I limiting myself by not recognising that I am a great person?
What can I do to love and like myself more?

Hope you enjoyed my blog.

Enjoy your start to 2009 :-)